Three years ago today we made vows to each other on our wedding day – it’s hard to believe how fast the time has gone – and it’s amazing to think how little of a clue we had for what lied ahead. This diagnosis has taken us to the edge of our vows and back and have truly put all those words to test.
We said, “I (Honore or Tom) take you (Honore or Tom) to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and cherish, until death do you part.”
I’ve got some thoughts on this. It goes more like this for us right now:
“I Honore, take you Tom…
to have and to hold close so I don’t fall off the edge of the tiny hospital bed…
from whatever the hell day it is, because I lost track of days in the hospital, forward….
for better, and there will be better, or for worse, but let’s hope not much worse…
for richer, when I finally win a lottery scratch card, or for poorer…
in cancer, and in health, of which we will never take for granted…
to love, more than I ever thought possible, and cherish you through a brief brush with death, because we are going to beat this thing…”
Seems more realistic don’t you think? All kidding aside, we know we will be stronger for it all when this is over and we have our lives back. Ironically, our original plan for our anniversary was to be at a resort in Mexico for a long anniversary weekend, but the hurricane would have made that quite an adventure too!
As you can imagine, we had a bit of a low key day. Our big anniversary date consisted of us getting up early and going to the doctor to get his booster shot which really exhausted him. It’s amazing what these first few days post treatment do to him. It is no exaggeration when I say he is out of breath if he walks around the house for longer than a minute. He is completely wiped out. Once we got home, he dozed in and out while I worked all day from home.
Despite everything going on in our lives, when Tom was having his “good week” before chemo he figured out a way to get to Hallmark without me knowing and had an anniversary card for me. It was the sweetest thing he could have done, better than any gift in the world. I made him his a favorite dish for dinner tonight and we caught up on some stuff on the DVR. He was feeling pretty down today that his situation made for a rather mild anniversary, and I’d be lying if I said there weren’t some tears today from both of us, but I think it was a perfect anniversary considering our situation.
I know yesterday I said there would be a special post today – and that was supposed to be a post from Tom. To be honest, he was attempting to write an anniversary post and a thank you to everyone for all the messages but was quite overwhelmed (in a good way) and given his rough day thought he’d post another time instead. So stay tuned for that one coming soon :) Thanks for all the love, until next time…
We said, “I (Honore or Tom) take you (Honore or Tom) to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and cherish, until death do you part.”
I’ve got some thoughts on this. It goes more like this for us right now:
“I Honore, take you Tom…
to have and to hold close so I don’t fall off the edge of the tiny hospital bed…
from whatever the hell day it is, because I lost track of days in the hospital, forward….
for better, and there will be better, or for worse, but let’s hope not much worse…
for richer, when I finally win a lottery scratch card, or for poorer…
in cancer, and in health, of which we will never take for granted…
to love, more than I ever thought possible, and cherish you through a brief brush with death, because we are going to beat this thing…”
Seems more realistic don’t you think? All kidding aside, we know we will be stronger for it all when this is over and we have our lives back. Ironically, our original plan for our anniversary was to be at a resort in Mexico for a long anniversary weekend, but the hurricane would have made that quite an adventure too!
As you can imagine, we had a bit of a low key day. Our big anniversary date consisted of us getting up early and going to the doctor to get his booster shot which really exhausted him. It’s amazing what these first few days post treatment do to him. It is no exaggeration when I say he is out of breath if he walks around the house for longer than a minute. He is completely wiped out. Once we got home, he dozed in and out while I worked all day from home.
Despite everything going on in our lives, when Tom was having his “good week” before chemo he figured out a way to get to Hallmark without me knowing and had an anniversary card for me. It was the sweetest thing he could have done, better than any gift in the world. I made him his a favorite dish for dinner tonight and we caught up on some stuff on the DVR. He was feeling pretty down today that his situation made for a rather mild anniversary, and I’d be lying if I said there weren’t some tears today from both of us, but I think it was a perfect anniversary considering our situation.
I know yesterday I said there would be a special post today – and that was supposed to be a post from Tom. To be honest, he was attempting to write an anniversary post and a thank you to everyone for all the messages but was quite overwhelmed (in a good way) and given his rough day thought he’d post another time instead. So stay tuned for that one coming soon :) Thanks for all the love, until next time…